Delving Into Your Truth
by Jolé Morton
I find that the most important thing we can do in the moment, is pause and really take the time to find out our personal truth.
Now, finding our personal truth may take some time and practice, seeing that we have buried it so deep within. First things first:
Pause - stop and really listen to your inner Self.
Secondly, give yourself permission to accept the answer you get from within. What you tap into may feel ‘out of alignment’ with who you think you are. Well, if that is the case, then the next step is to:
Accept it. Don’t judge yourself or your truth. Just get acquainted with it. This is actually the good stuff, because then we begin to get clear on what the truth is for us, even if we may not be ready to express it to others.
Once you have identified your truth, ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that can happen to me if I were to speak my truth”? Once we go down this path (or is it a ‘rabbit hole’, Alice?) we usually see that the so-called worst outcome is not at all that detrimental or frightening.
It is what I like to call the ‘wizard effect’. Once we take the covers off our fears, we find out that these fears are just disguised negative thoughts, and negative thoughts can be changed. Remember, what happened in our childhood or recent past is not necessarily what will happen today. Be open to the possibilities. Believe it or not, things may actually go the way you want them to. It is your energy that will dictate this.
Getting fortified enough – by recognizing and accepting your truth without self-judgement, permits the creation of a safe place within, which can and will lead to authentic and compassionate self-expression. This is when we connect with others truly and deeply, cultivating mutual understanding and respect.
Why is all this important?
It is important because when we fail to recognize and speak our truth, we become angry at ourselves (and others). Anger in this case is a healthy warning sign that a part of us has been hurt and needs acknowledgement. 'Selling ourselves short' by ignoring our truth only proves to be a temporary fix. When we sell ourselves out like that, our inner-child (being) begins to act out in fits of rage or passive-aggressive behavior.
And if we fail to pay attention to this anger and resolve the hurt underneath it, it winds up turning in on us and becoming depression. Depression is just one of the consequences of being unwilling to speak our truth.
A personal nugget: from me not speaking my truth for so long, it lead to being depressed for 20 years. Yes, 20 years. Half my life was eaten away because I lied to myself. Talk about consequences; in the prime of life and afraid of everything and everyone.
Well, needless to say, I am on a different path now. A path which includes healing. I often heal myself and have found that working with my partner – Laurie Lamson – a masterful healer, has removed most of these blocks. Laurie not only helped to remove the trauma by helping me get all the lessons from past experiences where I failed to speak my truth, she also worked with me on replacing these habits, negative thoughts, blocks with new ideas and new ways of thinking.
Now, I sit here and smile because I actually can speak my truth more often. Granted, I still have my challenges, but by taking my “Soul Medicine” I am seeing amazing results.